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The art of negotiating a great deal, so you can achieve your outcomes and reach your full potential.
In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss a short email success story from a viewer who has been following my work for about six months. He details how it has changed the way he thinks about himself, the value he brings to the table and how he now negotiates from a position of strength to achieve his outcomes. He went from practically begging women to pay attention to him, to being able to approach them anytime, anyplace and anywhere. They often ask for his phone number and later call to ask him out for dates, despite the fact they know he is dating other women. I also discuss twelve of my recent Instagram quotes and the success philosophies behind them, and how you can use their wisdom to negotiate better personal and professional deals. My comments are in (bold parenthesis like this below) in the body of his email:
You Rock man. For the past 10 years, my pickup skills went down, and I started to act needy and stalk women out of desperation, (You were using compliments as a bribe for sex and a relationship. Obviously, that does not work so well), just by saying the wrong thing, not listening and not concentrating on my purpose in life as a man. (I say this all the time. Having a great personal life is a side effect of having a great life that you’re proud of. If you don’t love your life and you’re not proud of what you’re doing for a living or what you’re striving to create, your empire you’re building, you’re not going to be that happy. And if you’re not that happy and you’re not that excited about your life, how are you going to get a woman excited? It’s going to be really fucking difficult. So instead of making the woman your outcome or objective, your outcome needs to be your purpose, your mission in life, your whole reason for getting up in the morning. Having a great, well-rounded life that you love and you enjoy, gives a woman something to come in and be excited about co-creating with you. It’s a side effect of being your best self. You’re becoming the kind of person you want to attract by focusing on yourself, living your life and filling it up with friends and family and the kind of social activities that are really fun and compelling to you.) I am in my early 40’s. I purchased your book 6 months ago, and I’m on my ninth time reading it. It has changed my life. I have an abundant amount of women, I am doing anything I please with them, and as a matter of fact, they know that I am lining them up, and they do not care. They still want to see me. (Because you’re a valuable commodity and you’re not attached. Guys who have lots of choices, lots of options, get lots of offers. The best place to be is with multiple offers.) I can’t believe that I don’t have to do anything to get women, no pursuing – just have a good time and enjoy the outings. I don’t accept maybe dates anymore, and I don’t do friendship favors to women I like, and Corey, women dig that response. (Scarcity creates value. In a very loving, non-attached way, you are presenting to the world, this is who I am. This is my truth, this is how I live my life. If you’re not down with it, call me if you change your mind.) I use the power of the take away when a women flakes, and the outcome of that is a definite date always. I approach women in pubs, malls and social circuits with the sole purpose to talk, meet and laugh. (As I discuss in my article and video, “How To Get Women To Approach You First,” you’re out living your life with the people you happen to be with. And if you happen to meet a really cool chick, somebody who happens to become a client down the road or a new best friend, great.) I don’t give the vibe of hunger for sex, etc., they ask for my phone number, and most of the time, they call me and ask me out. I swear it’s the truth. (For any of you who apply the things I teach in my book, you’ll see that it works for you. That’s why I’m not begging for business.)
“Negotiation and making great deals is an art. Good dealmakers negotiate to win and get what they want. Great world-class dealmakers negotiate win/win deals where all involved parties get their needs met. In deal making, you must have a vision and know what your outcome is. You also must have an emotionally compelling reason for your vision and outcome. Before beginning negotiations, you must know what your minimum acceptable terms of a deal are and what you will walk away from. Great deals are much easier and more likely to happen when you make the effort to influence the other parties to like and trust you before negotiations. Endeavor to meet the needs of all parties, so everyone can win and get what they want. If a win/win deal is not possible at the present time, you must walk away and communicate that you are open to resumption of negotiations if the other parties change their position to more favorably match your outcomes. Never get emotionally attached to your outcome or winning, it’s just business. Some deals take longer to materialize and are only possible when circumstances change in the future. Being infinitely patient pays huge dividends in the long run.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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